Male Sexuality

Most couples desire a great sex life. Why then, do so many couples have problems in this area? Some sexual problems stem from problems in the relationship, while some sexual problems stem from not using healthy relationship skills in the bedroom.

Both partners need to be able to talk about their feelings, thoughts, needs, likes, and desires regarding sex. NOTHING should ever occur sexually that both partners are not comfortable. However, individuals are comfortable with different aspects of sex. Partners still need to feel free to talk about differences, but be ready to abstain from any activity that the other partner is not comfortable with.

Many sexual problems stem from the fact that men and women approach sex very differently. Men seem as if they approach sex from a purely physical standpoint, but it is through sex that men are able to draw close to their partner. Women seem as if they approach sex from a purely emotional standpoint, but it is through feeling emotionally loved and secure that women can enjoy the physical component of sex. Understanding these differences goes a long way to creating a healthy sex life.

Many women feel that men don't care about sexually fulfilling them. Actually, a man feels closer to his partner by sexually fulfilling her. Unfortunately, because of an old fashioned belief system that incorporated the notion that women didn't have the same sexual desires as men, many men don't know what to do emotionally or physically to fulfill a woman sexually. This is another reason that open communication is a necessity. Also, couples can read books together. There are books about the emotional and physical aspects of sex. Women may also struggle with feeling that it is okay to enjoy sex and have an orgasm. There is nothing dirty about sex. It is a God given gift for both partners.

If you want to improve your relationship and sex life, read and learn. John Gray's book "Mars and Venus In The Bedroom" is a wonderful place to start!! Try reading a new book about relationships each month!

Sexuality Facts

• Approximately 30% of women rarely or never experience orgasm in marital intercourse.
• Women take an average of 15 minutes to reach orgasm.
• Men take an average of 3 minutes to reach orgasm.
• Unlike men, most women are capable of multiple orgasms.
• Continuous clitoral stimulation is usually needed for a woman to have an orgasm.

Erogenous Zones

• Ears
• Cheeks
• Mouth
• Front and back of neck
• Shoulders
• Breast and Nipples
• Naval
• Waist
• Buttocks
• Base of spine
• Genital area
• Hands
• Insides of thighs
• Backs of Knees